When we think of love, kindness, and compassion, we tend to think of it as an external action or outward display towards others. However, the single most important display of love, kindness, and compassion is internal – the thoughts and perceptions you have of yourself. It’s not innate for us to be kind to ourselves. We’ve been conditioned to be tough and have become our own worst critic. It takes time, dedication, and practice to master the art of self-love.
On a daily basis, we tear ourselves down with thoughts of disappointment, resentment, limiting beliefs, and “I’m not good enoughs”. Rather, let’s stop to reflect, acknowledge our feelings of anger, self-loathing, disappointments, regrets, and then choose another feeling… Gentler feelings of forgiveness, compassion, second chances, new beginnings, a lesson learned, and loving ourselves for who we are.
The mass tends to think of this as moosh, “self-help,” or pitiful fixes to our “broken self” but these are moment in which we become aware, grow, and change direction. This isn’t an attempt to fix ourselves… this is removing the blocks that get in the way so that our true self can be revealed.
And then… It is not until you master your own inward compassion and self-love that you genuinely begin to show kindness towards others. Your inner world is no longer full of turmoil and tainted with negative thoughts and self-inflicting limitations and fears, leading only to the outward display of hate, anger, bitterness, judgement – and other feelings brewed by fear. (Ahhh – that word again!)
First, remove the toxic thoughts you have of yourself. Second, remove the toxic thoughts you have about others…. and only then will you truly exemplify love and compassion.
Be the love you wish to see in the world. (OK – so, it’s not verbatum… I’m sure Mahatma Gandhi won’t mind.) ❤