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Don’t Delay Your Happiness

I want to talk about procrastination this morning. I’ve found myself in a bit of a slump, putting off chores, not feeling excited about a particular work project, and delaying exciting new endeavors that could bolster my career and future.

When I delve into why I’ve been procrastinating, I come up with a number of reasons to include how time consuming this new endeavor would be; how I’d have to give up doing something more enjoyable (not everything worth having is enjoyable and rewarding at first); having distractions from my girls since school is out for the summer; the idea of not knowing where to start, and the un-worthiness chatter: Who am I to take on something like this? 

Before I go on, I want to point out one thing… the simple definition of procrastination.

Procrastination is the act of delaying or postponing something. 

The act of delaying or postponing something… WOW, that landed hard with me, considering what I was delaying or postponing: joy, happiness, success, fulfillment 

I realized, in that moment, that I had to get back on track. I had to focus and figure out how to get passed the slump. I had to find the drive to accomplish what I originally intended. I had to recall why I wanted to begin this new chapter in the first place. What was my motivation? I would need to determine what short-term compromises I would need to make in order to achieve my long-term gains. It was time to get comfortable knowing that it would take some long days and I might have to decide between fun (short-term satisfaction) and future (delayed gratification).

This would require me to prioritize all projects (household, work, and otherwise), and dedicate time to focus on what’s most important (THINK: return on investment) without any distractions, both internally and externally.

This dialogue in my head started to spark excitement again. Recalling my why gave me a nice kick-in-the-rear.

Have you been putting off something that you know is important; something that will increase your happiness, finances, success, career, or otherwise? Go through the steps: 1) identify what’s  been stopping you/what excuses or limiting beliefs have been holding you back, 2) recall your motivation and the long-term gains, 3) make it a priority, 4) schedule it in – whether you need to schedule time in your calendar or set daily reminds.

Whether your delay is caused simply by inaction or maybe because of indecision… No more excuses. Get crackin’.

I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by a conscious decision.” – Henry David Thoreau

 

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Are you in the arena, or the stands?

When we decide to make some major quality of life changes, there will always be those individuals that don’t understand our motives, and even worse – criticize what they don’t understand. Here’s the thing: unless these critics are down in the arena with us, they can’t possible comprehend or appreciate the what and why of our strategy. Criticism holds no weight from the stands.

I’ve recently decided to make some hefty quality of life changes, starting with my place of employment. When you reach a point of little-to-no fulfillment, and can’t seem to find the joy in what you do, or begin to see people or places as toxic environments – then it’s time to think about making a change.

That’s where I found myself. I knew something had to change, yet I stuck around for about six months longer than I should have. I felt the desire to break free from the toxic and unfulfilling work environment, and to find a more meaningful direction. I didn’t need to change my career path, I just needed to shifted my focus… I needed to narrow-in on exactly what drew me to the profession in the first place. The people. The community. The relationship between the two.

So, I took the dive. Thanks to all of those who were in the arena with me. They got it. They understood my passion, and my drive. They had an appreciation for what I wanted to accomplish, and they stood behind me 110%. The support and encouragement that I received from those in the arena with me – setting out to achieve the same fulfillment and happiness that I sought – held more weight than those of the critics in the stands, who just couldn’t see my vision.

In addition to a more rewarding career, I wanted more quality time with my daughter, flexibility in my schedule, and time to focus on my health, which was taking a very sharp decline and fast. I’m only one month in and there are still some adjustments to be made, and still some fine-tuning to be done – but overall, I find myself in a more consistent and jovial mood. I’ve been able to focus on what’s important in life, and make my career align with my values. Even better, I have more control over my health and stress-levels.

So, stay in that arena, find your teammates, fuel one another and go for the goal. Pay no mind to the critics in the stands for they’re not on the field with you; they have no stake in the game.

(Helpful reminder: Judgement is just a mirror through which people see their own insecurities reflected back at them. When you find someone judging you, it might help to remember that they’re may be feeling insecure about the qualities they may lack, such as the courage to pursue the unknown.)


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Chart the Course

Happy New Year! It’s good to be back online! The holidays are such a busy (and hectic) time of year. Seeing (and meeting new) family is always exciting, but now that the thrill of the holiday season has passed, it’s time to settle back into “the grind” and refocus. 

I’m sure some resolutions have been made (and perhaps already broken), but let’s talk about a resolution that isn’t far fetched… Such as turning the focus inward this year. There are so many resolutions made on NYE, but the underlying message of all of those resolutions is, essentially, self improvement. Am I wrong?

Assuming that I’m right, I want to share with my readers a tool that I’ve developed and implemented in my own life. 

Two years ago, I designed a tool that helps me evaluate where I currently am, where I want to be, identify what’s holding me back, and set a plan for getting what I want. Doesn’t that sound delicious?! Getting what you want? It’s not impossible. We start small and work our way towards larger goals. I’ve been using this tool in my own life going on three years now. 
As part of my New Year resolution, I take out a pen and paper and begin to Chart the Course. I’ve used this same tool every January (2013, 2014, and now 2015). Every year, I ask myself what I want, why I want it, if I’m ready for it, and map the plan to get there – and every year, without fail, I’ve attained my goal. 

I’m so excited to share that I – now – have developed the tool enough to begin marketing it and offering it to my followers. 

Chart the Course is an insightful tool designed to inspire action. The tool is successful because it cuts straight to the real meat of any desire and it’s insightful because much of what comes out of it is an eye opener, particularly to the user. 

**Before deciding to take this tool public, I’ve sat with a few of my closest friends to see if it really does hold merit for others as it does for me. I’m pleased to share that it does and I cannot wait to begin posting testimonials. Stay tuned!**

If you’re curious about Chart the Course, and you want to give it a try, click on Contact Me in the top right and send me a message. 

*I’m offering a FREE one-hour Chart the Course session ($75 value) to the FIRST FIVE people who send me a message.*

I look forward to Charting the Course for a thrilling new year!!

xo